We encourage men, women and carers facing incontinence to share advice and learn from others — all in the name of removing the stigma surrounding incontinence and facing each day with more confidence.
Incontinence is a condition that isn’t spoken about enough – and this involuntary loss of urine and/or faeces is actually far more common than many of us think. Knowing more about it and understanding what works for different people is an important part of the condition.
While there are a few different types of incontinence, Stress Incontinence and Urge Incontinence are most common. Stress results from exercise, coughing, sneezing or laughing. It’s often due to weakened pelvic floor muscles. Urge occurs from a sudden need to urinate without notice – happening if you’re unable to make it to the toilet in time.
Causes differ for men and women, with childbirth being a common cause for women and prostate cancer being a key cause for men. Find out more about the different causes for both men and women below.
Generally, men and women will both benefit from diet and exercise, Kegel strengthening, and importantly staying hydrated to ensure the bladder functions the best it can. Read more on the specific for men and women below.
From men, women and carers like you.
After surgery seven years ago, my bladder problems started, getting worse as the years went by.
This leakage problem has caused me a lot of embarrassing situations to the point these days refuse to wear jeans or slacks preferring long skirts. Over the years the doctor has prescribed tablets and a patch, and a urinary specialist has recently diagnosed a prolapsed bladder. Thank goodness now something will be done to stop my problem which entails surgery.
I have experienced reduced or no bladder control during periods of extreme stress and depression. I don't really understand the connection but I sometimes leak a little and sometimes release a lot and can not stop the flow. I am trying different pant styles to find comfort and enough volume for my problem.
I am a carer for my mother who suffers from mild incontinence but the main problem is getting to the toilet as she has mobility
issues, the TENA pads are great way of staying clean and dry.
At 28 I found myself with a problem I assumed only 'old ladies' had, light bladder leakage. I was so embarrassed, it was affecting my life in many ways but when it started affecting my relationship with my husband I knew I had to do something. I went to my doctor who suggested I use a pad or liner and do pelvic floor exercises and see if that helped.
Thankfully that is all I have needed to do and my problem is easier to manage now but I always carry my TENA liners just incase.
I have even been able to help a friend who has the same issue by recommending your liners. Thank you so much for designing a quality, comfortable and reliable product.
My story began on 7 December 2012 when I had 2 strokes. My life changed that day from being in control of my body to finding myself being incontinent. I am 71 now. I have confidence in wearing TENA pants. When I go out I know if I have leakage I will be dry and secure. Try the Pelvic exercises they do help- it’s just getting used to doing something different! Being confident in TENA products makes a world of difference. Enjoy life I know I do.
I experienced slight leakage after urinating which was more embarrassing and inconvenient than anything. Since using TENA Shields I just feel a lot more confident after going to the toilet in public.
My main problem came from radiation damage with anal cancer. This has left me with duo incontinence. Since then I have had amputation and now only have half of one leg and a bit of the other. I find the TENA pull up pants great. They have a lot of stretch so next time I will get one size smaller. The Tena pants are the best value and they neutralize odours. So if you need protection know TENA is there to help. You can also get wipes. So enjoy life don't let these silly unfortunate medical problems get you down.
After 22 months of stress incontinence post robotic prostatectomy, my only hope of coping with this particular pernicious form of reverse Chinese water torture is to have botox injected into my bladder. It’s not touted as a silver bullet but let's hope I can get some substantial relief even if it’s for a limited time. Everything else has been of little value viz exercises, medication, and acupuncture. My usage of TENA pads has been of great value in allowing me to cope physically and more importantly, psychologically.
I was born with severe autism and ADHD- that left me totally incontinent.
I had tried all of the similar products in the market, non could do the support as TENA does.
So I have a Kylee on the bed with a short sheet on top for her comfort then another square white pad Kylee type on top and that also with a 1/2 sheet on top also for comfort and double security. So if it is wet I just ask her to her to just slip it off and it’s not a problem, the machine washes it so it’s too easy for me and no problem. If not pulled off by her I just whip it off when she is in the bathroom and pop another white spare square one on the top with another 1/2 sheet on the top over it and she is none the wiser and it reduces the stress of embarrassment.... the best way I have found it works & for me too. Thanks TENA!
As I got older my bladder became weaker, and I needed to use a product for protection. I was using pads then I received my TENA Lady samples. Now I use TENA Lady 95% of the time. I love the samples and get when I can I mostly pass them on to other ladies to try and also tell them they can apply for their own sample. So thank-you TENA Lady.
I had tried all of the similar products in the market, non could provide the support TENA does.
I'm caring for my Grandma who is 92 years old and she is bed bound. I use TENA slip for her which really holds her urine. I tried other brands but I found TENA slip more reliable. I order in bulk online on different websites.
When Grandma has the urge to pee and wants to go to the toilet, especially in the middle of the night, I can confidently say, "You can pee in your nappy, it can hold the urine, that's what it's there for and we just change it later when its already heavy".
It's not easy being a carer, but getting some help as well is important.
Live With It. I have had incontinence for over 25 years, beginning in my 20s. I read all the positive stories, but I find little comfort in them, though I’m ever so glad some people are able to manage their problem.
I have tried all the medicines and treatments available to me. I’ve requested but have been refused treatments available to many because doctors don’t think would work for me, but their recommendations never have helped.
I’ve been treated rudely by doctors both in the private and public sector and have found in the public system any concerns or fears I have now with certain tests are just dismissed and I’m told that’s the only way we will do the test.
I’ve changed clinics in hope of new treatment and I get told we have had such improvements in medication since my condition began, yet they all want to start me on ditropan, which was my first medication 25 plus years ago. Then they prescribe the latest expensive drugs that are meant to be solely for this condition, that cost a lot, only to be treated with no respect when they too fail. One doctor even saying to me that some patients just don’t take the medication and say it isn’t working.
The condition changed my life affecting friendships, relationships, my education and career path. Everything became harder and the jokes made at my expense for needing the toilet frequently didn’t help. My earnings decreased until I had to stop working altogether and then I was judged for looking normal, so I should be working.
Finding toilets where you need them is not always easy. I’ve been refused at petrol stations, shops, businesses and even made to buy an item just to be allowed to use their toilets. Public outside toilets are often disgusting and scary. So when people tell me just go to McDonald’s, anyone with this problem knows you can’t always find one quick enough, they really are not everywhere.
My condition has only worsened over the years, and my day to day life is very restricted and planned. I can’t even remember what it was like to go anywhere without being able to access toilets quickly.
I know there are many people who are worse off than me, but still I can’t help wanting one day out with my children, feeling free, comfortable and spontaneous and able to live the moment.
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